What is Starkemya?
Starkemya is a game for couples that turns an intimate moment into a space for connection, communication and discovery – through play, surprise and conscious exploration of giving and receiving.
A simple dice that opens many doors
At the centre of Starkemya there is a wooden dice with six faces. Each face combines two levels – body and psyche – and two energies – active and receptive. With just one throw, the game proposes who gives, who receives, who asks and who allows themselves to be asked in this encounter.
Instead of repeating the same dynamic every time, Starkemya invites you to leave your comfort zone in a safe and agreed way. Sometimes you lead, sometimes you soften, sometimes you ask and sometimes you listen more deeply.
Inclusive and adaptable
Starkemya is designed for all kinds of couples and constellations: heterosexual, homosexual, queer or fluid. The game does not define roles according to gender, but according to energies and agreements in each moment.
You can play in a very light way, just as a fun spark, or use it as a tool to go deeper into communication, consent and mutual care.
The Relational Mandala
Along with the dice, Starkemya proposes a “Relational Mandala” that maps four big zones:
- What you want
- What the other wants
- What you give
- What you allow yourself to receive
The mandala helps you see where you usually move and which zones you rarely visit. The game gently invites you to explore new spaces, always with consent and care.
Why Starkemya exists
We live in a time with a lot of information about relationships, but few concrete tools to bring that wisdom into everyday life. Starkemya was born as a playful bridge: a way to bring conversations about desire, limits and pleasure to the bed, the sofa, the floor or wherever you meet.
More than “performing” or “doing it right”, the game invites you to experiment, laugh, make mistakes, talk and keep discovering each other again and again.